DARVO
DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It is a manipulative tactic often used by individuals, particularly abusers, to avoid accountability. Here's how it works:
Deny: The individual denies the harmful behavior or situation, claiming it didn't happen or isn't true.
Attack: They shift the focus by attacking the victim's credibility, motives, or behavior.
Reverse Victim and Offender: The perpetrator claims to be the real victim, framing the actual victim as the offender.
Example: Someone speaks to you angrily, saying “you are pushing my buttons” is classic DARVO.
They are Denying that they have responsibility for their own emotions and actions.
They are Attacking you for mentioning it.
They are Reversing the Victim and Offender, basically saying their behavior is your fault, because if you were a better doormat they would not be treating you like shit.
Someone like this is offshoring the emotional frustration of their life on to you! They are too stupid or lazy to accept responsibility for their own emotions.
There is not a doormat in the world that would make a DARVO person happy, because their logic is flawed.
While they are blaming you for their stunted emotional state, they can never fix the real issue, because it is in them, not you.
Don’t walk, RUN away from someone who treats you like this.
DARVO
DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It is a manipulative tactic often used by individuals, particularly abusers, to avoid accountability. Here's how it works:
Deny: The individual denies the harmful behavior or situation, claiming it didn't happen or isn't true.
Attack: They shift the focus by attacking the victim's credibility, motives, or behavior.
Reverse Victim and Offender: The perpetrator claims to be the real victim, framing the actual victim as the offender.
Example: Someone speaks to you angrily, saying “you are pushing my buttons” is classic DARVO.
They are Denying that they have responsibility for their own emotions and actions.
They are Attacking you for mentioning it.
They are Reversing the Victim and Offender, basically saying their behavior is your fault, because if you were a better doormat they would not be treating you like shit.
Someone like this is offshoring the emotional frustration of their life on to you! They are too stupid or lazy to accept responsibility for their own emotions.
There is not a doormat in the world that would make a DARVO person happy, because their logic is flawed.
While they are blaming you for their stunted emotional state, they can never fix the real issue, because it is in them, not you.
Don’t walk, RUN away from someone who treats you like this.
DARVO
DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It is a manipulative tactic often used by individuals, particularly abusers, to avoid accountability. Here's how it works:
Deny: The individual denies the harmful behavior or situation, claiming it didn't happen or isn't true.
Attack: They shift the focus by attacking the victim's credibility, motives, or behavior.
Reverse Victim and Offender: The perpetrator claims to be the real victim, framing the actual victim as the offender.
Example: Someone speaks to you angrily, saying “you are pushing my buttons” is classic DARVO.
They are Denying that they have responsibility for their own emotions and actions.
They are Attacking you for mentioning it.
They are Reversing the Victim and Offender, basically saying their behavior is your fault, because if you were a better doormat they would not be treating you like shit.
Someone like this is offshoring the emotional frustration of their life on to you! They are too stupid or lazy to accept responsibility for their own emotions.
There is not a doormat in the world that would make a DARVO person happy, because their logic is flawed.
While they are blaming you for their stunted emotional state, they can never fix the real issue, because it is in them, not you.
Don’t walk, RUN away from someone who treats you like this.